Disengage to Reconnect

It’s a badge of honor to be able to say you are a good multi-tasker. And really, isn’t that what today’s society is all about? To be able to fit 26 hours of work and play into a 24 hour day?

We can send an email while making dinner. Talk to clients while driving to the grocery store.  Check our Twitter feed while watching our kid’s soccer games. A successful day is one where we are able to accomplish everything on our to-do list; and in order to do that, it often means we are doing more than one thing at any given time. However, is our constant need to be plugged in and on-the-go coming at too high a cost? The rate at which we are constantly plugged in to our devices may be detrimental to our relationships.

According to a recent article in the New York Times, a 2015 study showed that 89% of cell phone owners said they used their device during their last social gathering. Of that 89%, 82% of folks felt like their use of their phone was detrimental to the conversation. In fact, even the mere PRESENCE of an electronic device affected the conversation in a negative way. It’s like the elephant in the room. The thin, sleek, app-laden elephant in the room- but an elephant nonetheless.

It is second nature for us to compulsively check our devices. Emails, text messages, social media notifications, news updates and on and on. The electronic beeps and buzzes that are vying for our attention are never ending. The question remains: what are we missing, or rather, not contributing to our relationships by constantly having our eyes fixed on our devices?


It seems that the connection between social situations and actually being social is not being made. Engaging in conversation, making eye contact and reading body language are actions that are playing second fiddle to disengaged conversations. Conversations where more time is spent staring at the top of the head sitting across from you or at your own screen instead of truly participating in an undivided way with the people around you. There appears to be a lack of priority in friendships and relationships. The message we are conveying is one that says “I’d rather be alone, engaged in my own screen time, than participating in a conversation with you.”


Our phones are no longer just an accessory that makes our lives easier; they have become another appendage. Permanently attached to us and apparently vital because it seems if we were to remove it, serious harm may come to the body. Humans are social animals with a long history of being with one another and relying on one another to thrive and succeed. At your next social gathering, challenge yourself to remember this and dedicate your energy and your time to the other people around you; not the inanimate device in your pocket.

Be well and stay connected – with each other!

The Inside Pocket Team


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With reference to The New York Times “Stop Googling.  Let’s Talk”.  Interested in reading more about the psychology of relationships and electronic device use? Check out www.nytimes.com

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